Supporting Victims: What Can I Do If Someone I Know is Experiencing Sexual or Domestic Violence?
Don't be afraid to let them know you are concerned for their safety.
Tell them you see what is going on and you want to help. Help them recognize what is happening is not normal and they deserve a life free from violence.
Acknowledge they are in a very difficult and scary situation.
Let them know the abuse and/or assault is not their fault. Reassure them that they are not alone and there is help and support available.
Be supportive.
Listen to them. Remember it may be difficult for them to talk about the violence. Let them know you are available to help whenever they may need it. What they need most is someone who will believe and listen to them.
Be nonjudgmental.
Respect their decisions. Do not criticize their decisions or try to make them feel guilty. They will need your support even more during these times.
If they end the relationship, continue to be supportive of them.
Even though the relationship was abusive, they may still feel sad and lonely once it ends. They will need time to mourn the loss of the relationship and will especially need your support at that time.
Encourage them to talk to people who can provide help and guidance.
Find a local sexual assault or domestic violence program that they can connect with. If they have to go to the police, court, or a lawyer, offer to go with them for moral support.
Remember that you cannot "rescue" them.
Although it is difficult to see someone you care about get hurt, ultimately, they have to be the one to decide what they need to do and when.
Discuss safety concerns with them.
Remember that a survivor knows their situation best. It's important to talk with them about how to access resources for identifying safety plans. You may have ideas about what they should do but it's important that youallow them to make their own choices.
Information courtesy the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual & Domestic Violence