SAFETY PLAN is created by a domestic violence victim or survivor, often with the help of an advocate, that considers options for leaving an abusive partner or creates an action plan for a victim in the event of another incident.
See below for a list of safety tips you can utilize in various settings and circumstances:
HOME SAFETY TIPS -
- Have a safety bag ready with important items needed for a few days. Preferred items include, clothing (shirts, pants, underwear, bras/undershirts, pajamas, etc.), diapers/pull ups, blankets, a couple of toys for young children, immunization records for children, driver’s licenses or state identification cards for adults, Social Security cards and birth certificates for all family members, passports and/or work visa, cell phone and charger, medications.
- Teach your children to dial 911.
- Teach your children a code word that alerts him/her to get help and report to a safe zone (a place unknown to the abuser), such as the house of a nearby neighbor or family member.
- Do not run where the children are located because your partner may hurt them as well.
- Identify a neighbor you can talk to about the violence. Ask them to call the police if they hear a disturbance from your home.
- Avoid areas in the home that can be dangerous, especially if they limit access out of the house and have potential weapons. Areas include: kitchen (knives, sharp objects, hard surfaces, glass), bathroom (razors, pills, hard surfaces, water, no alternate exit), bedroom (only one way in and one way out, hard surfaces, sharp corners).
- Change home locks, alarm codes, garage door openers and add peepholes in the doors.
- Have an escape route prepared in order to arrive at a safe place. A safe place is defined as a location, which your abuser does not know the location or the person/people with whom you are staying. Such as, a domestic violence shelter, a relative or friends that the abuser does not know.
- Keep weapons like guns and knives locked up or hidden from the abuser.
- Do not open the door to strangers.
- Add a home alarm system.
- If violence cannot be avoided, make yourself into a small target, by diving into a corner and curling up into a ball. Protect your face and wrap your arms around each side of your head, with your hands and fingers locked together. This is known as a duck and cover position.
WORK SAFETY -
- If you have an Order of Protection or an Injunction Against Harassment, give a copy to your employer.
- Change your work hours, work phone number, or work location.
- Notify a third party of your work schedule.
- Report to work security.
- Notify your personnel office and/or security staff.
- Tell trusted people at work about the situation and have your calls screened by the receptionist.
- Obtain an escort to and from your work entrance.
COMPUTER SAFETY -
- Delete and block friends, known to both you and the abuser, from online social websites such as Facebook, Twitter, MySpace.
- Avoid registering with online dating sites.
- Notify friends and family about the abuser.
- Tell them not to accept friend requests or respond to messages or questions from the abuser.
- Do not accept ‘friend requests’ from people you do not know on social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, or any other website.
- Delete e-mail accounts you may have and set up new accounts.
- Change passwords to your e-mail accounts and online social accounts.
- Do not post your whereabouts or plans online.
- Consider deleting old social networks accounts.
- Limit information you post online.
- Be careful not to include your home address,work address, your date-of-birth, etc.
- Create an e-mail account, the abuser is not aware of, to relay important. information to family, friends, and social service agencies.
PROTECTIVE ORDER -
PHONE SAFETY -
SAFE EXIT PLAN-